Have you and your partner fallen into roommate syndrome?

Do you struggle to feel any closeness or even a desire for closeness?

Are you exhausted from falling into the same fight week in and week out?

It's likely you were 'set up' to function in this way

When we're not intentional with our relationships, or when we encounter great amounts of stress, we will function out of autopilot.

Where does our autopilot come from?

Generational patterns, early experiences of closeness and intimacy, cultural expectations, subconscious held beliefs, media narratives, emotional wounds we encounter in the relationship and never repair, internalized reactions to the love we saw and was shown....to name a few...

What can be done?

As a couple's therapist I have the unique position to be able to see the forest AND the trees. In plain english my work is to:

• Name and understand your stuck patterns

• Trade discord and disconnection for understanding and intimacy

• Teach you the skills needed to access mature adult love

Ready to help with:

• High Conflict

• Communication Strain

• Roommate Syndrome

• Desire Discrepancies

• Empty Nesting

• Affair Recovery

• Developmental Trauma

• Caregiver Stress

• Relationship Improvement

• Chronic Stress Management

Explore our services for couples, individuals, families, and therapy intensives.

• Sexless Marriages

• Relationships in Addiction Recovery

• Emotional Cutoff

• Generational Patterns

• Family Cutoff

• Adult Parent/Child Dynamics

• Stress Related to Dynamics in Aging

• Family Reconciliation

How is Relational Life Therapy (RLT) different from other couple's therapy?

Relational Life Therapy was developed by world-renowned therapist, Terry Real. Terry wrote the first book exclusively written about male depression, I Don't Want to Talk About It. Other publications include: The New Rules of Marriage, How Can I Get Through To You?, and the most recently written, US.

His approach began to be known for having the ability to rescue couples that were on the brink of divorce. Now his approach is being taught to therapists and coaches around the world. According to Terry, the "secret sauce" of RLT broke all or most of traditional therapy training in couples work. In RLT:

We take sides. Not all problems are 50/50.

We deal with not only shame but the other self-esteem disorder, grandiosity. We teach couples how to both come up from shame, and down from grandiosity.

We are not neutral blank screens. We are relational with you in the room.

We speak from our own recovery and not authority. We are co-travelers with you on the journey to healthier relationships.

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Get in touch

Free 20-minute consultations provided.

Phone

830-217-2387

Email

Jess@knowingconnectiontherapy.com